Long long long story..

Let me tell you a story here...
Only for those who in the mood for a story as this is a very very long one... pls read on...

There's this guy and this girl... they met.. the man pursued the woman... and finally after sometime, they became an item.... unfortunately....

The girl moved in with this guy eventually and they go on with their lives as a couple... after a while... the true colors of the guy & girl were revealed.. Guy... extremely possessive & jealous and the girl... more of a rebel... sometimes a little flirt... And of course, this guy cannot accept the girl's way and started lashing out... not once but twice!! And of course that also included lots of rough physical handling... Thats the first time this girl saw the true colors of this guy... she wanted to leave him... but he begged her to stay on..

Stupidly, she gave in and stayed... and as if it's not bad enough... they have decided to get married... How blind can this girl be right ? I mean... there were lots of warning signs of the guy's character.. but she was blinded by the notion of getting married... got carried away is more like it..

They registered... after almost a year, the girl got pregnant... she really want the baby... and when she was in her 11 weeks of pregnancy.. due to some misunderstanding and argument, the guy and the girl had a fight! And the guy told the girl that her baby is dead as he has been poisoning her in her water & food since a few days ago... of coz when the girl heard that, she was very scared and crying and all that... Not that, it's not enough... he slapped her... her glasses broke and flew across the room and tried to grab all her personal belongings such as car keys.. wallet... passport... hp.. so that she will not be able to escape... Fortunately she managed to contact her parents to come and 'save' her... and they came...

The girl went back to her parents place... they took good care of her till she gave birth to a healthy baby boy... and the parents advised the girl that.. now that there's a child... the guy will mend his ways and be a good father... the girl tot the same as well... So she accepted the guy back and very thankful for him to pay for her delivery bills which came up to RM7K..

Things went on pretty ok for a while... before the guy decided that, his job is more important that his family... or baby... and concentrated on his job instead.. not that it's anything wrong with that.... a guy got to do what a guy got to do right ? To make a living and put food on the table... Anyway, the new mom initially got a little upset about it coz she felt that the guy is not helping her out as a dad with their new borned baby boy... but then after a while... she stopped complaining and concluded that, the guy can do whatever he wants.

So she stop complaining. Pls bear in mind... the girl is still staying with her parents with the new borned baby... while the guy comes over every now and then, as and when he wishes..

Then CNY came.. and the guy said he can't make it for CNY.. for the going back hometown yearly routine... coz he had to shift office. Girl said ok... I mean.. what can she said right ?

Girl... baby boy and girl's family went back to hometown.. and came back... after a couple of days.. the nightmare begins..

Out of the sudden... the guy suddenly went berserk... and started accusing the girl of denying him to see his own son! Guy drank so much... made a lot of commotion in front of girl's house... in wee hours in the morning... woke up all the neighbours... and as if he possessed some mad strength.. he broke the front grill gate of the girl's house. And made a mess with his puke in front as well....

As if thats not enough... he went and crash the girl's car.. and used beer bottles to break her car lights....

Anyway to cut the long story short.. police reports were filed... lots of threats from guy to those who helped the girl and her family...
And similar incidents as such happened almost every once a month... from breaking of girl's windscreen... to pulling girl's hair in front of her dad and 2 policemen.. to being remanded in lock up for 4 days... to uncountable sms threats and phone calls... to girl and her family...

It was really bad in year 2007... after a lot of unfortunate series happened, girl has decided to file for a divorce... of coz guy refused to.. for whatever strange reason, we don't know... of coz the custody of the child was involved and all that...

And in the midst of all these, after seperated with guy for 2 yrs... girl got vunerable.. and met someone's husband.. and they had a short affair.. the girl was not proud of what happened... and she felt very bad and guilty and stop the whole thing... and has vowed not to ever repeat such thing again... and was thinking of making amends with guy... as guy was very persistent of not getting a divorce... so girl told guy of her thoughts and they have decided to work things out... and put all the mess behind them.. for the sake of their son.

By then, the Court has granted girl judicial separation (meaning, in the eyes of the law, guy & girl are seperated legally). Despite of getting that order, girl was still thinking of making things work with guy... It went well for a while.... However, after a while... guy found out about the affair of girl had long time ago... and went mad... girl was of course... felt very guilty and sorry and vowed to guy that it ended long time ago and it will never happened again... there were arguments , fights... along the way... but then... guy & girl talked it over again and decided to give each other a chance.

They tried to make things work... however, some how.. it's easier to forgive than to forget... in this case... it's difficult to forgive & forget... Guy keep punishing girl about the affair... esp when he's not in a good mood... lots of verbal diarrhea... nasty comments.... Girl put up with it for a while.. because she knew that it's her fault and she should take all that... Guy did also acknowledge that he too, wants to get over it... and will seek help... with or w/o girl... and promised not to bring the event up again.
However, situations were up and down... more of down... and girl finally realised that she & guy will never work out... no matter what... and despite promising guy way before, to be with him thru thick and thin... and stay as a family... get a house and move in together... She realised that, the issues they're facing will never ever go away...

Of coz girl was still a human being... and does tell white lies to guy because guy was extremely possessive of girl... he even went to the extend to go to the office of the other guy to confront him... and of coz let everyone know what that did and girl did... Guy check girl's phone bills.. want to check girl's personal emails... and traced girl's emails... and smses... always suspiciously thinking that girl is still cheating behind his back... despite of her promising him that she will never do that ever again to him...

Girl know guy hates people lying to him... and girl admitted of doing that sometimes... esp when she doesn't want guy to simply think and assumed... of coz it's wrong for girl to do that... but it was out of fear and phobias that girl did that.... Girl admitted that it was definitely wrong.. and their relationship has gone to really worst till guy & girl cannot trust each other anymore...

So, after giving some serious thoughts, girl has decided to proceed with a divorce despite of all the promises that she made to guy as it is very obvious that things will never work out... both had their wrongs & rights... there's no innocent party here... why not seek a closure and move on.. When guy found out of her intention... he was telling her all the reasons why they should not get a divorce and yada yada yada... and when he realised that that didn't work... he pursued on with lots of nasty threats such as ruining her life... her career... put her behind bars... take her son away and she will never see her son again... IF girl really proceed with the divorce... And guy reminded girl many times that, she PUSHED him to all these.... guy told girl... he gave her an easier option.. which is to keep her promises and be with him... and yet she prefers this helllish route instead... therefore, she's asking for all these upon herself...

Lastly, guy left girl with this note... I will make sure your life crumble...

What do you think girl should do... ?